It is important to Keep perspective beyond the child’s difficult moments - Perceiving the mind of the child within and beyond the child’s behavior. Only give a 30 to 60 second lecture (we generally lose their attention after that)…..addressing unacceptable behavior, stopping it, and providing acceptance beyond correction. This sounds so simple, but can be very difficult to follow through with. It may take some practice.
Sometimes, it is best for Mom or Dad to take time and think before addressing unacceptable behavior. It can also be better for your child. If your child is very upset, she/he may be unable to comprehend what you are saying. It is actually more effective to wait until your child is calm to discuss the behavior.
If you have any questions about the concepts presented or would like to talk in more detail please contact cscheller@ftia.org. As a reminder, we will be hosting a webinar entitled Ten Things Adoptive Parents Need to Know at the end of this series (December 2010).
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