The concept for week five is to allow your child to experience consequences. This means consequences not punishments….consequences that are congruent with the child’s actions. Help your child face the results of the actions (cause and effect thinking), all the while maintaining a loving acceptance of the child. Come along side of your child with perspective and use it as a teachable moment. For example, if your child forgets his home work at school, you might retrieve it the first time and explain what might have happened if the home work wasn’t retrieved. This gives the child a chance to think about the consequences. If the child forgets the homework a second time, perhaps you don’t retrieve the homework from school and have her/him face the consequences for the action. “Cause and effect” thinking is a great concept to teach children at an early age – as it is something we use all day, every day.
If you have any questions about the concepts presented or would like to talk in more detail please contact cscheller@ftia.org. As a reminder, we will be hosting a webinar entitled Ten Things Adoptive Parents Need to Know at the end of this series (December 2010).
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